Toastmasters’ Five Tips for Mastering Controversial Holiday Conversations

Like most things in 2020, the holidays will look much different this year. Whether you’re planning to host or attend a small get-together or large virtual gathering this holiday season, some topics—like mask-wearing, social justice, and politics—might be difficult to avoid.

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These tips offered but the Toastmasters Strategic communication team should help you balance opinion and civility in volatile times.

  1. Do a Cost-Benefit Analysis. Ask yourself if it’s even worth it to engage in a conversation that might cause others to feel uncomfortable or escalate to a level you didn’t anticipate. You might want to weigh in on a topic you feel strongly about, but try to refrain from initiating a lengthy debate.
  2. Set a Goal. If you do engage in a conversation on hot-button topics, you should have a good idea of what you want to get out of it. Do you want to feel heard? To share your view? While some people may reconsider their own opinion, it’s more likely that somebody who has a differing viewpoint won’t change their mind, so set your expectations accordingly.
  3. Be Prepared. It’s smart to think ahead and prepare for possible responses. Not only does that keep you on topic, it removes the heated feelings that can arise when a subject takes you by surprise. You should also arm yourself with relevant facts since it never hurts to prepare yourself with credible information on a topic that might come up in conversation.
  4. Listen. One of the most fundamental human desires is the desire to be heard. No matter how heated a topic, recognizing the other person’s humanity and really listening to what they have to say go a long way toward de-escalating any potential conflict.
  5. Make It Personal. While facts can be helpful in tense conversations, they can also be countered or ignored altogether. Experts say sharing a personal experience is more helpful in bringing things back to the human level and can even evoke empathy.

For more holiday conversation advice and tips, read Greg Glasgow’s “Mastering Controversial Conversations” in the Toastmaster magazine.

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